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The first time Tamia’s “Can’t Get Enough” came on, we were celebrating at M Tulum with the Black In Tulum crew, dripping in sweat without a care in the world as we hit the dance floor with the crowd for a coordinated two-step. We weren’t home but we felt right at home amongst the expats and vacationers, who, like us, were captivated by the warm evening air and waves crashing somewhere off in the distance. It was in that moment that I knew Tulum had us in her grip.

This birthday wasn’t just a trip. It was a celebration of life, freedom, and softness in motion. Brown skin glowing under the Caribbean sun, toes sinking into warm sand, late-night dancing under string lights with Black in Tulum. It was the kind of escape that you didn’t want to run from. If you’re planning your own girls’ getaway (or want to steal my exact plans), here’s where I stayed, where I ate, and how I kept the party going from sunrise to sunset.

Day 1 - Easing In

I used to start birthday trips like a music video — cocktails in the airport lounge, champagne on the plan, and real life left at the gate. But lately, I’ve been craving slower, more intentional beginnings. A calm start before the chaos, especially with a larger group.

This year, I arrived a day early on a Wednesday afternoon with two friends to share a villa at Amari Luxury Tulum. The drive in was…eventful (think: police stop, quick bribe, nervous laughter), but the moment we stepped onto the property, hibiscus welcome drink in hand, the stress melted away.

Afternoon: Arrive at Amari Luxury Tulum – enjoy the welcome drink, unpack, exhale.

Dinner: Tacos and margaritas at AMARI Flavors— Amari’s on-site restaurant (order them to-go and thank me later).

Evening: Girls’ night out with Black in Tulum at Mistico Shisha Bar.

Day 2 - Birthday Behavior

I woke up in a room I loved, phone buzzing with birthday messages. After reading a devotional from Draw the Circle, I got ready for a day that would only get louder as friends arrived from across the country.

Morning: We ordered room service from AMARI Flavors (the tacos were just that good), and took a ride into town to go grocery shopping.

Lunch: Negra Tomasa for something light and local

Dinner: BAK' by Harry — part dinner, part show, entirely unforgettable.

Evening: Once again, we joined Black in Tulum at M Tulum, where good vibes and the kind of DJ set that makes time disappear.

Day 3 - Beach Club Bliss

With the full crew in town, it was time for sun, sand, and soundtracks. We hopped in the complimentary shuttle and headed to Tulum’s hotel zone, where beach clubs serve as both a daytime lounge and a fashion show.

Afternoon: Tantra Beach Club — beautiful, chill, and exactly the vibe we needed (for a more turned-up vibe, I’d recommend going on Saturday).

Dinner: Autor at Conrad Tulum Riviera Maya — good food, unforgettable views.

Evening: Back to Mistico Shisha Bar for another Black in Tulum night.

Day 4 - An Epic Adventure

On Saturday instead of the usual Mayan ruins, we opted for Xel-Há Natural Water Park — a choose-your-own-adventure mix of lazy rivers, water slides, snorkeling, and cliff jumps. Everyone could move at their own pace, which made it perfect for a group.

Afternoon: Xel-Há Natural Water Park – bring water shoes and sunscreen.

Dinner: RosaNegra Tulum — Honestly, one of the littest restaurants I’ve ever been to. Think a bunch of people standing on tables waving sparklers in the air while singing at the top of their lungs. Epic.

Evening: Black in Tulum for the Afrobeats party at El Pescador.

Day 5 - Easy Like Sunday Morning

Our last day was slower. Some friends caught early flights, while the rest of us swapped the cenote plan for another beach club. No regrets.

Lunch/Afternoon: Gitano Beach Club — calm, beautiful, and perfect for good conversations and reflecting on the week.

Dinner: Asian Bodega — one of the best local meals of the trip at a great price.

Final Thoughts

Five days wasn’t enough. Between the food we didn’t get to try and the activities we skipped in the name of rest, I’m already plotting another trip. Maybe a more relax and retreat vibe for next time.

Whether you’re celebrating something big or just in need of a restoring getaway, Tulum is a destination that’s worth the trip.

Pro Tips for Tulum

Bring cash for taxis, tips, and random “police fees.”
Book beach clubs and popular restaurants in advance.
Pack both swimsuits and comfortable walking shoes— I rarely pulled out my heels even for the clubs.
If you can, arrive a day early to settle in before the group energy hits, or schedule some extra R&R post festivities.

Before You Go

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Tulum in 5 Days: Birthday, Beach Days & Endless Tacos